Sean and Lyuda’s story: finding your way through after loss
Pregnancy loss affects everyone differently, and even within couples, people have different experiences, feelings and ways of coping. In Sean’s video, and Lyuda’s written experience, they speak about their losses, how they each coped, and what helped get them through difficult times.
Lyuda’s experience:
Lyuda is Sean’s wife. Here, she has written about her losses, and what helped her through:
As my husband mentioned in his video, I feel like it is important to understand that miscarriages are very common, happen to the healthiest of us and you and your partner have not done anything wrong to cause it.
When we lost our second baby, a nurse told us that 1 in 4 pregnancies in UK end up in miscarriage. A lot of people simply do not speak about it, and I can see why. Sometimes the experience is too painful, so it is easier to put it behind you and try to move on with your life and normality.
I don’t particularly want to go to that place again, and do not really feel the need to dig into my emotions, and how I felt at the time when we lost our baby. I just know that it affected our marriage, and we had to work through a lot of pain to get past it.
Everyone deals with pregnancy loss differently and things that may have worked for me will not have the same effect on others. I’d say do what makes you happy and stay positive, give your body a break and look after yourself. I booked a skiing holiday a week after we lost our first baby. I know it sounds crazy, but skiing makes me happy, and I felt like we had to put a lot of plans on hold including holidays and career opportunities when we decided to have a child. So, if an activity or holiday helps to divert your thoughts elsewhere, do it! Perhaps a spa getaway with your partner or friends.
